Thursday, September 16, 2004

Don't Take it Personally

"Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally...If I say to you, "Hey, you are so stupid"’s not about you, it’s about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid....What causes you to be trapped is what’s called personal importance." Miguel Ruiz– The Four Agreements

A couple of good friends of mine have run into their own pinches tyrannos. I too, have had my own personal petty tyrant, for years. I was defeated by mine, because I lost control, discipline and forbearance. I have regrouped and gone on, and I refuse to join her and become a petty tyrant myself. Having a personal petty tyrant is a good thing. It’s the best way to find out how self-important you are, and to help you eradicate that self-importance. Self-importance is not a naive consideration. It’s what wastes our energy worrying about me, me, me, instead of observing what is going on around us and dealing with the way things are. What I’ve told my daughter is that some people are like tornados. Tornados hit trailer parks. Don’t live in a trailer park by taking these people personally. These people are idiots. They are an act of nature. We use control, discipline, forbearance, and timing, and in extreme deadly situations, our will, to overcome them. By doing so, and being lucky enough to have a petty tyrant, we remove our self-importance, and properly use our energy to become impeccable.


quantum_shaman said...

Good observations, and altogether true! I am thankful every day for my petty tyrants, even when I might want to strangle them on the spot. :O

Lisa said...

I am having a hard time with this concept. Don Miguel is asking us not to take ANYTHING personally, and while I can understand not taking negativity (or poison as he calls it) personally or even praise (very often false) personally what about love? So if someone says 'I love you' and treats one with love/respect/impeccability and compassion that person isn't to take it personally? That was my first thought after finishing that section. I'm going to reread it tonight after my final.

The Crazy Shaman said...

Take two statements:

1) I love you

2) I hate you

Does any one of them, both of them, or neither of them, have any affect on Who You Are? They may have an effect on who you think you are, but, that's the point. It shouldn't, but it does. Which goes for all of us, me included.

Lisa said...

Isn't every thing contextual? I'm not sure I would be affected very much if a person who wasn't aware of the power of his intention/awareness said "I hate you" but I would be very much affected if someone I knew to be impeccable said "I hate you" (or even "I love you") but then I doubt very much someone who was impeccable would ever say "I hate you."

So while I am trying to understand the "Don't take it personally" agreement I also know that there are some things we can't help but take personally being human beings.

And I'm not going to let go of those things that enrich my life because like any set of 'agreements' (As it Harm None Do As Thou Wilt for example) I don't think it can be applied in every situation we are faced with.

Just my 02.